Where have I been, confessions of this Aradiaaddict

Hello all,

So glad that my abandoned blog has been finding readership.

I began writing Aradiaddicts to share my love of what pole dancing has offered me. I treasure every memory but have moved onto new passions. A passion for Social media. I own a company now.

Wildfire Effect Social Media Consulting
"sometimes all you need is someone to provide the spark"
www.wildeffect.com
TW: @wildfireeffect

I want to share with you the 5 top life changing results Pole danceing has offered me:

1) Self Acceptance of my Body - I am not an athlete, I have battled weight issues all my life. The pole dancing classes I took made me feel beautiful by showing me how to move and stand and pose in a sensual way. The more I practiced the better my body got. I don't dance now but I know how to feel great about how I look, by simply standing tall, shoulders back and walking with confidence as if I am back on stage.

2) I treasure the friendships and although I do not see these beautiful women every week, I still feel a part of their lives. We keep in touch via Facebook and I can bump into them down the street and feel that no time has gone by. The sense of community I will always feel apart of.

3) The muscle memory... remains. I own a pole, I use it as my dance partner when a song comes on that I must get up and move to. I may not be as flexiable, I may not be as strong, My body knows how to move around it when I close my eyes and just get into the music. That feels awesome.

4) I love watching the industry grow - much by the visionary of my past dance instructor and owner of Tantra Fitness in Vancouver - Tammy Morris. Women around the world are part of the same vital experience. My friends have competed internationally. The pride in being part of the community makes me smile.

Crystal Lai - Miss pole dance 2010, and International Audience choice 2010

5) I get the emails and comments and analytics that women all over the world are reading my past posts. It reminds me that I am one part of the bigger picture. It draws me back each time to what I love about dance. Its this love for dance that fills my creative boots. It makes the everyday live extraordinary.

THANKS FOR READING
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Childsplay

Have you ever wondered why you love pole dancing? I have a theory. I think it comes from our child hood. This may be counter intuitive but hear me out. As children we are given the right to use our imagination, we get caught up in games and movements and sounds that are all our own. We are not judged for it until much later. In adulthood, day-to-day moments rob us of personal expression and creativity. Dance, motion, as unstructured as pole dancing... we have the ability to explore again. It is a taboo, so we do not fall into the routine of what is expected as a normal way to do it. This has appeal.

Then there is the playground factor. Have you seen a modern play ground, you suspend yourself upside down on monkey bars? You rotate around and slip down the fireman's pole. You feel the centripetal force of the merry go round, or the exhilaration of a fast swing.

Lastly what was your favorite time of year? I bet a majority of pole dancers will say it was Halloween. The costumes, the props, the themes, and the ability to turn into whoever you have always wanted to try out. You can try on someone you are not like what if it might be like to be. The pure fantasy and fanci-ment of costumes is thrilling.

And we cannot forget that selfishness of being a child. The world is all about you when you were a child. I don't really know at what point you loose this as an adult. I know most children spend their your lives fighting to be the one who has captured the full attention of the adults --in their grown up worlds. No wonder we love to recaptures this selfish attention by performing a dance where there is only one person in the spotlight and only one who can be part of the fun at a specific moment. One pole, one costume, one musical theme, one spin along one creative inspiration into one moment.

It's all about familiar, selfish, childish fun.
Just a theory.

My pole dancing wish list

Happy New Year fellow addicts of pole dancing!
I want to share a resolution with you... to get back to what I LOVE. And to be clear I will share a bit of what that means to me.

My pole dancing wish list:

I want to be fearless.
Taking on new moves without reservation that I will fall or fear of the pain of fresh skin being bruised or burned.

I want the time to learn the grace and form that makes one dance transition into the next.

I want to move through an entire hour of instruction before I stop and realize that I am covered in sweat.

I want the experience to feel that it is a workout.

I want to look at the women (or men) around me and see their encouraging smile.

I want to have my fellow students teach me what they have learned and critique me to help me learn.

I want to be fit enough, and strong enough to challenge myself with lots of new techniques.

I want to keep learning and keep experimenting and creating new moves.

I want to perform in front of an audience and perform with my friends.

I want to experience pole dancing without fear of not performing up to a standard, but to move in a way that feels good to me.

I want to love the music and loose myself in it.

I will find this again. I hope you all find what it is that makes you feel right this year!